rights of 13 old after divorce

[daviddashaw]

My son is 13 yrs old, he lives with his mother(primary caretaker) We have joint custody, and he wants to live with me. Does a 13 yr old have rights to choose whom he wants to live with??????

[Brendan Perez]

From what I understand, most family courts do give some weight to the "child"'s preference.

[Galactic Ruler Xenu]

Babble Opinion: Yes id say if you really care for him you'd help get him stay with you. Fight the system. Good luck. Peace, HN-

[Bongermann]

Not to burst your bubble senior but its generally that the mom gets the kid no matter what, unless she snorts a line in the court room or is in jail. Get a private investigater or anything you can to make her look as bad and horrid as you can. Its the only way. And good luck man.

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[XavierAKadafi]

I believe that at 14 or somewhere around there, you can tell the court that you don't want to live with x parent, and you want to live with y parent, and they have to let you decide on this; however, I may be wrong.

Yeah, you're really fucked, sorry man.

If they say they want to have a shrink examine the relationship in either home, you're fucked.

If you kid is clinging to you: You don't support independence.

If your kid isn't clinging to you: He feels distant.

It's usually mommy gets Johnny.. Which I think is fuckin' funny.

Thusly why I refuse to not wear a condom when I'm having sex until I'm married and happy and have been for atleast 4 years.

Then again, I don't want married til atleast 3 years into a relationship.

Bitches can always fuck you over so easily it sickens me... A lot..

Between standard of living and child support.. Men ARE guarantee'd to be fucked if they get a divorce and the woman is one of those psycho bitches who he shouldn't have been with in the first place.



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[Euripus]

Insist on a pre-nuptial, and always keep finances seperate -- Or simply forego marriage entirely,.. why bother?


On the kid's rights: 14 would be, from my experience in Florida, the age at which the court will consider their testimony as to placement.

And good luck with your situation.

[XavierAKadafi]

That's your only way of not getting fucked over majorly...

But anyways,

Good luck to you with your kid.

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[de82]

That's why you just adopt a kid (or buy one!) and then bag yourself a girlfriend. That way the kid is legally yours and she can't adopt him without the kid's say-so (though I'm not 100% about this. Laws may vary in different places). The only downside to this is that you aren't passing your genes on to the next generation.

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[XavierAKadafi]

Actually, the child has no say.

It's up to the legal parents.

My step father wanted to adopt me.

My father signed the papers, and said fine.. If she don't want me in his life.. I'm not gonna fight with her.

N' my mom ended up not signing it over cuz her and her husband were feuding...

What really pisses me off, is that my mother tries to make me live down the fact that my dad signed that paper like it's my fuckin' fault.

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[de82]

That's just wrong, Akadafi. I mean you aren't a fucking used car or even a used horse, you're a person. And if your mom makes you feel like shit like that she has no right to even think of herself as a mother, regardless of what is legally true.

[OmegaWolf747]

Tell her that you'll have nothing to do with her whatsoever and that you'll seek emancipation if she messes with you. If all else fails, just leave home and find a friend to stay with.

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[3ch0 0f Vi51on]

Xavier and I call that "Venting." :P

[3ch0 0f Vi51on]

Sorry for double post. Web error. >.<;

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[de82]

A parent's (to borrow from a classic 80's movie line) ... "wet dream" as it were.

I don't party... don't do drugs (mostly, anyway...) don't drink... don't go out with friends save for occasionally and even then, not 'irresponsibly.'

I call. I leave notes. I eat in rough proportion out of the refrigerator to my co-habitors. I do MY OWN laundry and dishes, as well as food preparation, and prefer if everyone keep it that respective way.

My major hobbies are studying, arguing with people online (debate, har,) watching educational (IF EVER) television...

I do prayer-equivalents, on occasion, which, lest you enquire, consist of impregnating the sub-conscious with important directives, etc, prior to achieving unconsciousness...

I don't smoke. I don't drive, presently, for a number of reasons.

I hold a job, if I'm "working" officially.

If I take a few months off to recuperate and get some things done, I still pay rent.


Yet somehow, I'm still a bad guy.

That's the problem. You are showing your mom up and it is embarrassing her. Instead, try being LESS responsible. Act (keyword: ACT) your age and though she may nag you, she will be much happier inside. Everyone needs to feel superior to someone else. If you truly love your mother, you would not be so cold-blooded as to deny her this one, single joy -I'm sure it is all she has left.

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